Your precious handmades. Do you use them?

tea, tea pot, handmade coaster

It all started with this coaster. I was having coffee with my friend Minki the other day and as always, we talking about sewing and the things we love to make. Then she said the nicest thing to me.

“I learned from you to actually use the things I make. Not just take a picture of them and then put them on the shelf.” Aww. To think that I have had an influence on a talent like Minki’s was a nice moment for me. But then I had to confess.

“I’m kind of having trouble with that now. You know that hand embroidered coaster you gave me a couple of years ago? I do use it. And it’s a bit of a stained mess now and I feel bad about it.” I didn’t tell her that sometimes I actually tuck it away in a drawer when she is coming over, so that she won’t see what has become of her hard work.

Then she told me, “I actually think that stained linen is beautiful.”

hand made coaster, Minki Kim

And you know what, she’s right. (This coaster actually looks worse in real life, for some reason.)

That got me thinking about all the handmade, everyday use items I have around that house. Knitted dishcloths are my absolute favorite, but I am always a little sad when one starts to come unraveled. I actually usually merely move it to the rag drawer until it is nothing but a pile of string.

grandma's dishcloth

These are the coasters we use every, single day. They are about eight years old and I hope that I have learned to sew a gap together better than I did in those days. But this illustrates my point exactly. When you use things–you use them up. And sometimes that’s fine, but sometimes its hard–like not saving your fancy china for that dinner party you’ll never actually have.

quilted coasters

I’ve spent countless hours embroidering these tea towels, and they are stained and faded and have holes in them. I will never be able to bring myself to throw them away–so I’m already starting to think about what I can do with them when their useful lives as tea towels is over. Any ideas? What I need to do is start planning for that day now and simply make some more. That’s what we makers do, right? It’s just an excuse to make some more.

dish towels, handmade dish towels

My favorite table runner has definitely seen better days

quilting, linen, patchwork

And so has my favorite tea cozy. Okay, maybe a trip through the wash might help this one.

high tea fabrics, lecien

And even my first quilt, only eight years old, is already looking like this. But this is the most loved quilt in the house. It is exactly the right weight for our warm southern California weather and is the first thing that every family member grabs from the quilt basket each morning. It gets washed because I pick it up from the floor a dozen times a day and it comforts the child with the flu. And over Christmas it cradled my dying cat. So, I’m looking at those frayed edges a little differently now.

French General quilt

So, what to do? I think the only thing to do here is to embrace the beauty of the well-loved and worn. There is a story behind every handmade item. A story about the person who made it and what was happening in their life as they sewed each stitch. There are the stories of the everyday life of the people who are blessed to use it daily. To wash the dishes after a regular, weeknight dinner. To wrap the child reading a book. To set the morning coffee cup on, before dawn everyday.

And if they are not as perfect and pristine as they once were–it’s because they bear the marks of an everyday life well-lived. And I can live with that.

8 thoughts on “Your precious handmades. Do you use them?

  1. Rosemary Bolton says:

    Kristin. I enjoyed reading this. I wonder if everyone has such a visual memory. I certainly do, especially when using our creations in significant events.
    At my momma’s memorial service last December, we used and displayed so many of her creations. She was incredible, amazing. I miss her. I have many of the things she made. She did everything except jump out of an airplane, and she was only born with one hand. God just made her that way. She made lace, and embroidered and cooked fancy meals —
    anyway, Yes, we must use our things. I give away a lot of things I make and I want my friends and family to use them, I always tell people (bc of my crappy sewing) that if it starts falling apart, I give free repairs.

    I lost my beloved Pierro kitty in November. I miss him so much.

  2. Marie Austin says:

    Lovely blog! Use use use! I’ve not been quilting long – my very first quilt was a present for my mother in law for Christmas a year ago, however she was taken into hospital at the beginning of December. For some reason I decided to give it to her early and she used it on her hospital bed for the last ten days of her 85 year life. It made her look so loved and cared for! I also love seeing my granddaughter using the second quilt I made – even choosing it to take to school for her ‘sleepover’ in the woods! Using something that has been made specially for you is the best compliment that can be given I feel!

  3. I just finished making a quilt from the stained and torn doilies/tea towels/ serviettes etc that I got from various relations. I found it easier to cut up the torn and stained ones (and shop bought ones) than the ones that were still in good condition. If you want to see it its on my blog and its called Handwork Heritage. It was a great way to use those treasures that are well used from the past. I was rather sad when I heard from a niece in law that the quilt I had made her son was “too good to use” and was instead lying decoratively over the back of the rocking chair. Each subsequent gift to a parent has come with the instruction that it is to be used and that the best compliment you could give a quilter was to wear teh quilt out.

    • What a fabulous idea! I will pop over and check that now! I have given my dad two quilts and I’m pretty sure they just sit in a basket. I want them to be used! 🙂 A note is a great idea.

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *